Words Influence Us More Than We Think

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©Stuart Miles.freedigitalphotos.net/Words have special meaning and power. Words cannot change reality, but they can change how you perceive reality. Words create a filter through which you view the world around you. A single word can make the difference between liking a person or disliking a person, feeling happy or sad about the situation and even being angry or loving towards another person.

Take the word Disappointment, according to dictionary.com
The feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.

If you look at the word disappointment and break it into parts Dis/appoint/ment
Disappointment is dissatisfaction of your actions or disappointment in one’s self because you missed an appointment.

Disappointment is a strong emotion that is felt when an expectation isn’t met. You felt bad that you ran late or missed your appointment.

Now if we take the center word appoint and divide it. You have A/point. A point is a tapered tool or an idea that comes to an end. A /point is to direct someone’s attention. A/point is a new way to think. A/point is being focused. Stay on point until the task is done.

When we look at the word disappointment is takes the power out of us and makes us feel regret, sadness, sorrow, let down, and displeased.

What if we turned the word around to empower us?

A/ point = what is it that you wanted? There was something you wanted to do or have.
Appoint = you had an idea or wanted to direct someone’s attention to something that was important. You wanted something that was important to you and it may not have happened.

Disappointment= you let yourself down, an expectation wasn’t met, but if we stay on A/point, focused with a new way to think then we are empowered. The reason why is because we are now focused on the center part of the word A/point. Now it’s A/point to succeed.

We changed the word and our thinking to empower us. Our feelings may have been hurt, but now that we have a new focused direction we are excited to move forward. My question to you is what are you going to do to stay on A/point towards your desires?

Your Thoughts Are Creating Your Reality

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© vectorolieThere are many roads in life and different paths you may take to create your life. These roads are like different movies playing in your life. Is your life playing the way you want it to? Is your life full of joy and happiness or is it full of struggle and sorrow? Did you know your thoughts are creating or blocking you from having the life you want? Once you realize that, you can change your thoughts. Awareness is the first key.

 

Life Is A Series OF Movies
Think of your life like several movies playing all at once. There is the beautiful movie that inspires you and it is peaceful. When you are done watching the film you are empowered and you feel good about life. Another type of movie is the mediocre, ordinary, tolerable low budget “B” rated film. Then, there’s the comedy, where the charters are getting into and out of one jam after another as you laugh at all the errors they make in their life. Last, but not least there is the movie filled of tragedies. It is full of heavy heartache and every kind of drama or problem imaginable.

What type of movie is your life playing right now? Are you ready to change the film? Which movie do you want to play and experience? Your life, like the movie is chosen by the thoughts that you are thinking and you decide what you want to think.

Life is a series of adventures and it is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. One way to look at a challenging time is as a lesson or a learning experience. This lesson is here to stretch you and help you grow.

When you think of the challenging time as a lesson then the path is easier as you know you will get through it. You now have possibility thinking, instead of thinking I can’t do this. Now you are thinking about ways you can get through it or do it. What movie are you playing right now? What movie do you want to play in the future? The choice is yours. Practice focusing on a positive outcome and your movie will change.

Destiny to Thrive

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You Can Do It!Thriving, it goes beyond succeeding. It is our destiny to thrive, to have a lot of money, to be healthy, have a fit body, and loving relationships. Thriving is also a spiritual experience. Those who are thriving are the ones who know who they are and why they are here. They just seem to know what their purpose is and take action towards it.

 

Thriving is tapping into and having a trusting relationship with you Higher Self, Spirit and the Universe. Within each of us is the natural tendency and the capacity to live a whole, fulfilled life, which means to be fully awake and aware.

 

It is our destiny to thrive in all areas, on all levels of our lives. If one only thrives on the physical level there is a hole in their life. They feel something in missing and they are not happy, but they don’t know why they are unhappy.

 

When one is not whole with their inner development as a human being or they are incomplete with their development of their mind. They fall to the mercy of circumstances. They haven’t realized yet that they can control their life through their thinking. They are responsible for each of their experience. Every thought they are thinking is creating their future, even if you are aware of it or not.

 

They keep searching outside themselves for this connection. The connection they seek is within themselves in the spiritual aspect of themselves. When they tap into the essences of who they really are, now they feel whole and complete. They are aware and awake. They have come full circle. They know who they are and what their purpose is. They are happy and are thriving in their life with happiness and joy. What do you need to do today to tap into your inner joy and happiness? Maybe it is being out in nature, going for a walk with a friend or it could be as simple as taking a nap because you are tired. Take a little time for yourself and you too can be happy thriving.

What Do Courage, Faith and Trust Have In Common?

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How brave are you? Courage is an attitude. It is movement, doing something, some type of action towards your desire even through you may not feel like it. Courage is having faith that things will work out for you.
Faith is knowing that something or someone will come forth to help you in your time of need. Faith is trusting the Angels to assist you with your wish. Trust is knowing that you are being helped and allowing things to flow the way they do. Trust is taking your control off the outcome. How it turns out will be different than you expect. Sometimes it looks as if it is a challenge.
Courage, faith and trust all work together. Without one the others can’t work. It like having a three legged stool and one of the legs are missing. The stool can’t stand on its own without falling over. It needs the missing leg to be strong. It takes courage to do what you fear. It takes faith to believe it will work out for your best and highest good. It takes trust that you are being Divinely guided.
Today as you go about your day. Tap into the energy of courage, which is ‘doing it’ in spite of how you feel. See how many times it touches your life. Then, see the faith that you have as you are using the energy of courage. Lastly trust it is all working out. There are things going on that are out of your control. Charge ahead with courage, have faith and trust the Angels are holding your hand along the way. I know that you can do!

 

 

 
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Faith Opens The Door For Miracles To Happen

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What miracle are you looking for?Faith is possibilities taking form.
The universe is on our side. It is constantly working on our behalf. There is an unseen force working for the good of all, but we are just not aware of these unfolding unseen forces. We forget that it is there and we try to do it on our own.
We try to direct, force and control this unseen force, but we only interfere with it. One has to have faith and trust that the unseen force is on our side. Trust in the unseen force that moves the Universe and have faith it knows what it is doing.
When we relax our willingness allows it to work on our behalf. Faith is the force of things hoped for that works through the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the trust we function on. It is an idea of possibilities taking form. It is the power to create.
When one has faith and focuses on a positive outcome. The situation changes, but one must hold the truth top of mind, for example: the custody suit I was in was stuck. I was done fighting and I wanted the whole thing to be finished. I switched my thinking around by focusing on a positive outcome instead of all the fighting and having faith everything would turn out okay.
Believing what is beyond, what is visible ~Michael Beckworth
Faith is to believe in, what you don’t see. One of the most important things to have in life is the deep feeling of faith. One may have faith in the fact that life is here to support you and that the universe works in order and perfection, even if you can’t seem to see it or understand it.
Real faith is believing that no matter whatever is happening right now, it is always for your best and highest good, even if you disagree with it. For in the unseen there is a gift or lesson that you just haven’t understood yet.  Faith opens the door for miracles to happen. Faith is allowing it to unfold.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Don’t Give Up On Your Dreams

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ID-100219589pat138241You have a wonderful dream. You are all excited about it and you start out gung ho. Then it gets hard, you hit an obstacle. It is not working out like you thought it would. During challenging times this is where most people stop short on their dream.

 

 

They seem to give up and settle. Making it okay not to reach their dream. But, you can be different.
This is the point where you can make a choice to go with the current state of feelings or breakout of it. How do you break away from the habit of repeated habitual thinking and feelings?

 

Here are 3 steps to help your breakthrough the challenge to your success.
The first step is to stop and breath. When we get stressed we tense up and hold our breath. The second step is to feel the frustration or anger. When you feel the frustration or the anger, acknowledge it and then breathe through it, letting the frustration go. The last step is to reframe the event so that it ends the way that supports you.
Most of the time, we get upset or quit the project, because the outcome is not what we expected. We become disappointed or frustrated and it is easier to settle than to figure out a new way of creating our desire. Next time you are ready to throw in the towel and settle. Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “If I settled would I be happy?” If the answer is no, then find another option and keep moving forward towards your dream.
When you push through the last obstacle more than likely things work out better than you could have ever imagined. It is like the last test from The Universe to see if you really want your dream. I know you can do it. Keep going towards your goal, dream or vision and breakthrough the last barrier to your success. Then celebrate all that you have accomplished. You deserve it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Free Yourself From Giving Up And Settling On Your Dream

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Most Keep going towards your goal. Don't settle for less than what you want. people stop short, just before they succeed. They seem to give up and settle. Making it okay not to reach their dream. Are you going to stop? Or are you going to keep going towards your goal, dream or vision and breakthrough the last barrier to your success? The key is to be aware when you are giving up and settling.

 

The other day I was traveling with a friend from San Francisco to Santa Rosa. It was a beautiful Sunday morning. The sky was bright blue. The trees were still glistering from the evening dew and we assumed the drive up the coast would be easy. We were going against traffic and we left with extra time to spare for our two hour trip. The first couple of highways that we traveled on were light with traffic as we chatted the morning away. It wasn’t until we got to the very tall and long one lane bridge that we got stuck in traffic. It was a steady line of red tail lights as far as you could see. We were cruising at the high speed of ten miles an hour.

 

ID-100150279 artur84My friend started to get frustrated and wanted to turn around and go home. But the problem was there was nowhere to turn around on the bridge. We were surrounded by cement and water. We were almost there. At the top of the bridge I could see the signal light ahead. All we had to do was go straight down the bridge to the signal light. Then we would be free from the traffic. Most of the traffic was turning right at the signal light to the race track. My friend and I had no idea that there was a big race in Napa Valley that day. My friend was getting very upset and was saying things such as, “I knew this wouldn’t work out. It was a mistake. I shouldn’t have gone.” When I questioned her about it and asked, “What was so important that you should have stayed home?” She didn’t have a real answer. They were excuses, such as cleaning the house, gardening or paperwork.
Are you like my friend, wanting to turn around, throw the towel in and go home? Are you ready to give up just before the great breakthrough to your dream and happiness? Are you willing to go through that last challenge to get what you really want or do you settle for something less?

 

What do you do when you drive yourself into a place of frustration or anger? The energy of frustration or anger that you are sending out keeps circling around you like a dust bowl. It sticks to you like glue until you shift your energy. When you’re frustrated or angry your mind keeps replaying the same thoughts. Those thoughts keep circling around and around in your mind like a hamster on a wheel. The thoughts start feeding on each other and the problem get bigger and bigger as the mind blows it out of proportion.
When we become disappointed or frustrated most of the time it is easier to give up and settle than to figure out a new way of creating our desire. Next time you are ready to throw in the towel and settle. Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “If I settled would I be happy?” If the answer is no, then find another option and keep moving forward towards your dream. It has been my experience that if you keep going then all of a sudden there is a shift in the energy and the outcome turns out better than you could have ever imagined. You are so happy that you stuck with it. What is the new idea or option you can do today?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Do You Have A Project That You Have Been Putting Off?

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ID-100214046By Stuart Miles

Which are you?

Have you ever forced yourself to do something that your heart just wasn’t into? It seems the more you push yourself the more tired you get. I don’t know about you, but when I push myself harder, it is even harder for me to keep my eyes open. All I want to do is take a nap.

On the other side of the coin when you are excited to do something time flies. You are wide awake into the wee hours of the morning or you jump out of bed ready to go, full of excitement for the day.

Did you know willpower is like a muscle? Let’s take your bicep for example. It can only exert itself so long, before it gives out and gets tired. The same is true with willpower. You can only do it for so long before you give up.

The question is then, “How do I get something done when I’m not excited to do?” The secret is to do something first to get your excitement up. You could dance, stretch, or go for a short walk. Do something for yourself, which you like to do.  Set a time limit that states at such and such time I’ll start the project that you have been putting off.

Then with this new frame of mind you can jump right in and get started. The switch is in changing how you think about your project. Here are two ideas to make the task more enjoyable. First, take the excitement that you just created doing the thing that you wanted to do and put that same excitement towards the item you do not want to do. Idea two: Set the timer the race is on. How fast can you get it done? Make a game out of doing it and in no time you will be done.

Your Success Is Just Like Making Coffee

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ht//www.freedigitalphotos.net/ID-10075000 The other evening I was standing in the kitchen talking to my brother and nephew. It was getting late, so I decided to get the coffee maker ready for the next morning.

The conversation was traveling along at an even pace as I started to count the scoops of coffee into the basket, one scoop, two scoops. My brother decides to start teasing me. He starts counting four, five, and six. I am trying really hard to concentrate on my counting, three, four. I am starting to get confused. I hear four, five, six and it get louder with giggles.  I can’t remember what number I am on.

All I hear are odd numbers and laugher, as the noise gets louder in my head.  I try hard to concentrate and give it my best try.  I scoop two more tablespoons of coffee into the basket, not sure how many are in the basket right now.  My brother is still counting numbers at random, when I throw up my arms and say I give up. My brother laughs as he hugs me and says never change. Then he walks out of the kitchen.

My nephew is still standing there in the kitchen. I ask him, “How many scoops of coffee did I put into the basket?” He tells me six. Oh, I only need one more scoop and I add it to the basket.

That is when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was only one scoop away! I went through all the teasing, laughter and confusion to give up one scoop away. It is just like success. You go through all the steps of learning, struggle and hardship only to give up one step away.

What I got out of the playful event was not to give up one step away before you hit success. You are almost there, Keeping going! No matter what you are trying to do. Do not give up.  

The Hero’s Journey Down The Yellow Brick Road

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Just like Dorothy you have the courage to dream.

Just like Dorothy you have the courage to dream.

Have you ever felt like Dorothy in the movie The Wizard of Oz?

You are on a hero’s journey trying to get to the Emerald city, but somewhere you got lost. You got stuck on a loop of negative thinking, worry and doubt. You don’t feel happy anymore. There is no passion for what you do and who knows where the courage went. Have you felt this way?

Dorothy went on a self discovery expedition that was filled with lessons, but on her journey down the Yellow Brick Road she gained courage, confidence and a sense of joy she had never experience before. It wasn’t until she gets home that she realizes that she had the Power Within herself to create anything she sets her mind to. Just like Dorothy you have the courage to dream and create anything you want. What is it that you want to accomplish?

The Yellow Brick Road is a quest to find your authentic self, face your worst enemy-fear, worry doubt and to attain courage to live a happier life. Often we feel small weak and simply not up to the challenge. We don’t know if there is even any strength to pull us through. Our problems seem to engulf us, stop us and even destroy us if we let it.

We are looking outside ourselves and forget the answers are within. You are stronger than you think. There is a strength and courage within you that has always been there. Click your heels together. It is time to dig out your courage and use it. First, just by being still and getting clear on what you really want you pull on this inner strength. Second, once you are clear, then you can re-frame your negative thinking to focus positively with your desires. Once the shift happens you feel the joy, love and happiness in your heart again. You get to the other side wiser and stronger from the experience. Have faith that you can do it.  

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