Are You Honoring Yourself?

Thanks for image from http://www.freedigitalphotos.netIt is time to start honoring yourself for who you are instead of putting yourself down. It’s time to let go of your “mental meanie” and old habits that no longer serve you.

Release your fears, doubts and feeling of unworthiness. It’s time to find your true self, your gifts and your passion in life. When you are clear on who you are and let that joy shine through to others, then, you are making a difference in other people’s lives around you.

Just for today, choose to honor yourself and see yourself as a wonderful person who is kind, worthy, loving and good enough. You are an incredible person who touches a lot of lives, even if you don’t know how you touch others. It is like the ripple effect. When you smile at someone in the grocery store, you made them feel special. They in turn smile at someone else at the gas station and the smile travels along to other people. Who knows? Maybe that smile traveled to someone on the other side of the world!

Choose to honor yourself on a deeper level. Start validating yourself. Don’t look for love, worthiness or approval from other people. One must feel the self-love first before it can go out into the world and come back to you. The worthiness you seek comes from within you and then it goes out into the world.
The more self-love and honor you have, the less you will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection and self-rejection comes from the image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to it.

Self-love and honoring one’s self is about being kind to yourself, resting when you are tired, eating when you are hungry, and thinking kind thoughts about yourself. Remember: You are a wonderful person who is kind, worthy, loving and good enough. Just for today, why not honor the person who you are. What can you do to honor yourself today?

 

 

 

 

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Stepping Stones On Your Journey

FreeDigitalPhotos.netLife is a series of adventures! It is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. If you look at everything as a lesson to help you grow and further your progress then the path is easier, as you know you will get through it. You now have possibility thinking, instead of thinking I can’t do this. Now, you are thinking about ways you can do it.

Here is a new way to look at hardship and struggle. If you looked at every hard time you had as a stepping stone to better your life. This thought process prepares you for the next step, the next adventure. Life is a series of adventures! It is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. Within the hard time, there is always something that we need to know. Through the challenge, it somehow makes us becomes a better person.
If you look at everything as a lesson to help you grow and further your progress then the path is easier, as you know you will get through it. When you are going through these hard times talk to yourself with encouragement, and supportive words, not put downs. Be kind to yourself.
Look at it as, a time of development, not hard times. Don’t give up on yourself, because then you will then stay the same. You will be stuck, not learning or growing into the person you were meant to be. Know that you have what it takes and that you can do it! Be patient with yourself and realize that you need time to develop into the great person you were meant to be. You now have possibility thinking. Now, you are thinking about ways you can support yourself, which make your progress easier. What kind things can you say about yourself today?

Are You Stuck Somewhere In Your Life?

© jscreationzsMy desire is to inspire you to ‘do what you need to do’, in order to ‘be who you want to be’. If you ever need to stretch yourself, I highly recommend trying something brand new and out of your comfort zone!

You could pick something like running a half marathon. This will help to move you forward and bring up all the beliefs you have hiding about yourself. Some of those beliefs might be, “It’s hard, I don’t like running, I don’t know if I can do this.”

When these beliefs surface realize it’s just a part of you that can never do or be enough that’s getting triggered. When those beliefs get triggered go back to focusing on what matters the most to you. How you do that is by asking yourself a few questions…
What do I want? Be crystal clear about what you want?

Why do I want it? Get really clear about why you want it?

What strategy will I use? Am I clear about the strategy to get my desire?

Am I creating from the future version? As if it is already done. If not, imagine what it will be like having it, being it or doing it.

Do you have the courage to do what needs to be done to create your desire?

Answer those questions and see what comes up for you. When you can answer the questions above you will quickly get back on the right track. Are you stuck? If you can’t answer those questions, ask for help. If you need help, I’m a phone call away. You can schedule a complimentary breakthrough session with me by emailing me at Jolen@lighterWithin.com.

Words Influence Us More Than We Think

©Stuart Miles.freedigitalphotos.net/Words have special meaning and power. Words cannot change reality, but they can change how you perceive reality. Words create a filter through which you view the world around you. A single word can make the difference between liking a person or disliking a person, feeling happy or sad about the situation and even being angry or loving towards another person.

Take the word Disappointment, according to dictionary.com
The feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.

If you look at the word disappointment and break it into parts Dis/appoint/ment
Disappointment is dissatisfaction of your actions or disappointment in one’s self because you missed an appointment.

Disappointment is a strong emotion that is felt when an expectation isn’t met. You felt bad that you ran late or missed your appointment.

Now if we take the center word appoint and divide it. You have A/point. A point is a tapered tool or an idea that comes to an end. A /point is to direct someone’s attention. A/point is a new way to think. A/point is being focused. Stay on point until the task is done.

When we look at the word disappointment is takes the power out of us and makes us feel regret, sadness, sorrow, let down, and displeased.

What if we turned the word around to empower us?

A/ point = what is it that you wanted? There was something you wanted to do or have.
Appoint = you had an idea or wanted to direct someone’s attention to something that was important. You wanted something that was important to you and it may not have happened.

Disappointment= you let yourself down, an expectation wasn’t met, but if we stay on A/point, focused with a new way to think then we are empowered. The reason why is because we are now focused on the center part of the word A/point. Now it’s A/point to succeed.

We changed the word and our thinking to empower us. Our feelings may have been hurt, but now that we have a new focused direction we are excited to move forward. My question to you is what are you going to do to stay on A/point towards your desires?

What Do Courage, Faith and Trust Have In Common?

How brave are you? Courage is an attitude. It is movement, doing something, some type of action towards your desire even through you may not feel like it. Courage is having faith that things will work out for you.
Faith is knowing that something or someone will come forth to help you in your time of need. Faith is trusting the Angels to assist you with your wish. Trust is knowing that you are being helped and allowing things to flow the way they do. Trust is taking your control off the outcome. How it turns out will be different than you expect. Sometimes it looks as if it is a challenge.
Courage, faith and trust all work together. Without one the others can’t work. It like having a three legged stool and one of the legs are missing. The stool can’t stand on its own without falling over. It needs the missing leg to be strong. It takes courage to do what you fear. It takes faith to believe it will work out for your best and highest good. It takes trust that you are being Divinely guided.
Today as you go about your day. Tap into the energy of courage, which is ‘doing it’ in spite of how you feel. See how many times it touches your life. Then, see the faith that you have as you are using the energy of courage. Lastly trust it is all working out. There are things going on that are out of your control. Charge ahead with courage, have faith and trust the Angels are holding your hand along the way. I know that you can do!

 

 

 
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Faith Opens The Door For Miracles To Happen

What miracle are you looking for?Faith is possibilities taking form.
The universe is on our side. It is constantly working on our behalf. There is an unseen force working for the good of all, but we are just not aware of these unfolding unseen forces. We forget that it is there and we try to do it on our own.
We try to direct, force and control this unseen force, but we only interfere with it. One has to have faith and trust that the unseen force is on our side. Trust in the unseen force that moves the Universe and have faith it knows what it is doing.
When we relax our willingness allows it to work on our behalf. Faith is the force of things hoped for that works through the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the trust we function on. It is an idea of possibilities taking form. It is the power to create.
When one has faith and focuses on a positive outcome. The situation changes, but one must hold the truth top of mind, for example: the custody suit I was in was stuck. I was done fighting and I wanted the whole thing to be finished. I switched my thinking around by focusing on a positive outcome instead of all the fighting and having faith everything would turn out okay.
Believing what is beyond, what is visible ~Michael Beckworth
Faith is to believe in, what you don’t see. One of the most important things to have in life is the deep feeling of faith. One may have faith in the fact that life is here to support you and that the universe works in order and perfection, even if you can’t seem to see it or understand it.
Real faith is believing that no matter whatever is happening right now, it is always for your best and highest good, even if you disagree with it. For in the unseen there is a gift or lesson that you just haven’t understood yet.  Faith opens the door for miracles to happen. Faith is allowing it to unfold.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Free Yourself From Giving Up And Settling On Your Dream

Most Keep going towards your goal. Don't settle for less than what you want. people stop short, just before they succeed. They seem to give up and settle. Making it okay not to reach their dream. Are you going to stop? Or are you going to keep going towards your goal, dream or vision and breakthrough the last barrier to your success? The key is to be aware when you are giving up and settling.

 

The other day I was traveling with a friend from San Francisco to Santa Rosa. It was a beautiful Sunday morning. The sky was bright blue. The trees were still glistering from the evening dew and we assumed the drive up the coast would be easy. We were going against traffic and we left with extra time to spare for our two hour trip. The first couple of highways that we traveled on were light with traffic as we chatted the morning away. It wasn’t until we got to the very tall and long one lane bridge that we got stuck in traffic. It was a steady line of red tail lights as far as you could see. We were cruising at the high speed of ten miles an hour.

 

ID-100150279 artur84My friend started to get frustrated and wanted to turn around and go home. But the problem was there was nowhere to turn around on the bridge. We were surrounded by cement and water. We were almost there. At the top of the bridge I could see the signal light ahead. All we had to do was go straight down the bridge to the signal light. Then we would be free from the traffic. Most of the traffic was turning right at the signal light to the race track. My friend and I had no idea that there was a big race in Napa Valley that day. My friend was getting very upset and was saying things such as, “I knew this wouldn’t work out. It was a mistake. I shouldn’t have gone.” When I questioned her about it and asked, “What was so important that you should have stayed home?” She didn’t have a real answer. They were excuses, such as cleaning the house, gardening or paperwork.
Are you like my friend, wanting to turn around, throw the towel in and go home? Are you ready to give up just before the great breakthrough to your dream and happiness? Are you willing to go through that last challenge to get what you really want or do you settle for something less?

 

What do you do when you drive yourself into a place of frustration or anger? The energy of frustration or anger that you are sending out keeps circling around you like a dust bowl. It sticks to you like glue until you shift your energy. When you’re frustrated or angry your mind keeps replaying the same thoughts. Those thoughts keep circling around and around in your mind like a hamster on a wheel. The thoughts start feeding on each other and the problem get bigger and bigger as the mind blows it out of proportion.
When we become disappointed or frustrated most of the time it is easier to give up and settle than to figure out a new way of creating our desire. Next time you are ready to throw in the towel and settle. Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “If I settled would I be happy?” If the answer is no, then find another option and keep moving forward towards your dream. It has been my experience that if you keep going then all of a sudden there is a shift in the energy and the outcome turns out better than you could have ever imagined. You are so happy that you stuck with it. What is the new idea or option you can do today?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bring More Happiness Into Your Life

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Do you allow yourself to be happy?  Did you know that some people will not allow themselves to be happy? All they do is complain or find something wrong with everything or person around them.

When you allow yourself to be happy, you are really giving yourself permission to be happy, valued, loved, and appreciated, which can only come from one source. Only one person can make you happy and that person is you. Why not give yourself permission to be happy. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks you are capable of or deserve. It only matters what you believe about yourself. By giving yourself permission you fill your most basic needs, which are safety, belonging, self approval and love. When you give yourself permission to be happy you can completely override your inner system of emotions.

This system of emotions is controlled by your responses to different experiences that you have had in your life and it’s calibrated to what you think you deserve. If your system is calibrated too low, then you will start to feel out of balance, whenever you begin to experience success in your life. This is because internally you feel that you don’t actually deserve success. This out of balance will cause emotional conflict. You don’t need to feel that you deserve happiness either. You just need your own permission to fully experience it. There is no reason to make happiness, love or success conditional. You don’t need to measure up to some self-imposed standard, so that you feel like you deserve it. All you need is your own permission!

Would you like to give yourself permission to be happy? Great!

Put your hand on your heart and say with me, “I ask myself for permission to be happy.” Take a deep breath and allow it in. You can put your hand down now.

As you go about your day look for ways that you can be happy. It’s all in your attitude. Put a smile on your face and be happy. If you enjoyed this post sign up for a free e-book 53 Insightful Tips to bring more happiness into your life.

By Jolen Philbrook

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