Are You Stuck Somewhere In Your Life?

© jscreationzsMy desire is to inspire you to ‘do what you need to do’, in order to ‘be who you want to be’. If you ever need to stretch yourself, I highly recommend trying something brand new and out of your comfort zone!

You could pick something like running a half marathon. This will help to move you forward and bring up all the beliefs you have hiding about yourself. Some of those beliefs might be, “It’s hard, I don’t like running, I don’t know if I can do this.”

When these beliefs surface realize it’s just a part of you that can never do or be enough that’s getting triggered. When those beliefs get triggered go back to focusing on what matters the most to you. How you do that is by asking yourself a few questions…
What do I want? Be crystal clear about what you want?

Why do I want it? Get really clear about why you want it?

What strategy will I use? Am I clear about the strategy to get my desire?

Am I creating from the future version? As if it is already done. If not, imagine what it will be like having it, being it or doing it.

Do you have the courage to do what needs to be done to create your desire?

Answer those questions and see what comes up for you. When you can answer the questions above you will quickly get back on the right track. Are you stuck? If you can’t answer those questions, ask for help. If you need help, I’m a phone call away. You can schedule a complimentary breakthrough session with me by emailing me at Jolen@lighterWithin.com.

Faith Opens The Door For Miracles To Happen

What miracle are you looking for?Faith is possibilities taking form.
The universe is on our side. It is constantly working on our behalf. There is an unseen force working for the good of all, but we are just not aware of these unfolding unseen forces. We forget that it is there and we try to do it on our own.
We try to direct, force and control this unseen force, but we only interfere with it. One has to have faith and trust that the unseen force is on our side. Trust in the unseen force that moves the Universe and have faith it knows what it is doing.
When we relax our willingness allows it to work on our behalf. Faith is the force of things hoped for that works through the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the trust we function on. It is an idea of possibilities taking form. It is the power to create.
When one has faith and focuses on a positive outcome. The situation changes, but one must hold the truth top of mind, for example: the custody suit I was in was stuck. I was done fighting and I wanted the whole thing to be finished. I switched my thinking around by focusing on a positive outcome instead of all the fighting and having faith everything would turn out okay.
Believing what is beyond, what is visible ~Michael Beckworth
Faith is to believe in, what you don’t see. One of the most important things to have in life is the deep feeling of faith. One may have faith in the fact that life is here to support you and that the universe works in order and perfection, even if you can’t seem to see it or understand it.
Real faith is believing that no matter whatever is happening right now, it is always for your best and highest good, even if you disagree with it. For in the unseen there is a gift or lesson that you just haven’t understood yet.  Faith opens the door for miracles to happen. Faith is allowing it to unfold.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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5 Steps To Becoming Lighter Within

       Feeling lighter
Feeling lighter

As we go through life we endure all kinds of hurt, pains and hardships. This creates energetic baggage through the way we think and feel about ourselves and life. This energetic baggage gets stored within our subconscious mind and our bodies cells. These stored thoughts and feelings then create our actions.Do you want to lose some energetic weight to become lighter?  Here is a way to release some of the old emotional baggage that you carry around with you.   

In these 5 steps learn how to let go of your emotional baggage to become lighter within.

First, Lay A New Foundation

The old one just isn’t working anymore, because you have out grown it or it is an old habit that no longer serves you. Creating a new foundation is about clearing the old way of thinking, self talk and how you relate to yourself. The quality of your relationship with others is a reflection of how you think and feel about yourself. Become an energetically lighter person by shifting your thinking and actions.

Action Step:

Decide first what area you want to change. Is it the way to talk to yourself? Do you criticize or put yourself down all the time? Or is it the way you think about yourself? This tears down your self-confidences. Choose one, how you talk to self or think about self.   

Second, Create A New Pattern

You create a new pattern by shifting the way you are talking or thinking about yourself. Understand that your old way of talking and thinking got you to where you are, but today is a new day. You can change it. It is time to create a way to talk back to those old habits.

Action Step:

Observe yourself. What do you say to yourself out loud? Is it supporting you or tearing you down? What are you saying to yourself in your head? Did you know there are only a handful of saying that get repeated all day long. Pay attention to what you continually repeat. Here are a few examples, “I can’t, it’s too hard, I’ll try, there isn’t enough blah, blah, blah, I’m stupid and the list goes on, but you get the idea.

Third, Create New Actions

You may not understand why there were the difficult times in your life, but you can educate yourself and learn new tools to help yourself move away from those hurtful times. One way to move away from the old habit of speaking or thinking a certain way is to reframe it.

Action Step:

Reframe what you think or say to yourself. If you observed that your favorite phase is, “It’s too hard” then just reframe it. Here is an example of a reframe for “It’s too hard.”

Reframe: “It is getting easier and easier every day.” Or “I’m getting better and better every day.” What is your favorite phase and what will your new reframe be?

Forth, Keep Practicing

Keep practicing and being consistent. The key is consistence. Just like a seed you plant in the ground. It grows little by little. If you look at it each and every day you don’t notice the growth, but if you were gone for a week and came back you would notice the growth. The same is true when you are retraining yourself to talk, think and act differently.

Action Step:

After you have observed yourself and found your favorite old habit. Practice daily catching yourself saying or thinking the old phase. Make a game out of it. Count how many times you catch yourself. Use tally marks, because it is easier to count.  Once you catch the old phase remember to reframe it. Then notice in a few days how the number goes down. Be sure to tell yourself, “Wow, I did better today than yesterday!” Pretty soon the old habit will be out of your life for good.

Fifth, Have Fun

The idea is to have fun while you are learning the new way. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get it right in a day. Remember you didn’t create this habit in one day.  It took months or even years in some cases. Give yourself the gift of releasing the judgment or criticism and just be okay with learning something new.

Action Step:

Laugh at yourself. Say, “Gosh, I did it again” instead of beating yourself up. Then remember to reframe it. One learns faster with laughter than with criticism.

Practice these 5 steps to become energetically lighter within. As you let go of the old ways you will find that lost joy and happiness that you buried long ago will resurface. The twinkle will be back into your eyes, a smile on your face and laughter in your heart.

Enjoy and post your comments and questions below.

By Jolen Philbrook

 

3 Easy Steps to Changing Limiting Beliefs

 Steps to the new empowering belief
Steps to the new empowering belief

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed or worried with all that you have to do in order to be successful in your live or business? Do you have old junky negative words rolling around in your head repeating themselves day after day? Telling you that you can’t do it, you’re not smart enough, good enough or whatever? Do you feel stuck?

 

If you feel stuck then here is a tip that you can use to shift from a limiting belief that is hold you back to an empowering belief that will move you forward.

 

First you want to make a conscious choice to move from an old belief to a new belief, which means that you have to pay attention to your thoughts. Next, follow these easy 3 steps to change the limiting belief.

 

Step 1: Willingness

Have the willingness to choose the new empowering belief

I’m willing to believe I can…

 

Step 2: Courage

Have the courage to act on your new belief

I’m willing to do…

 

Step 3: Practice

Have the ongoing practice where you do it again and again. Until you move from the old limiting belief to the new empowering belief. This is where you have moved on through to the other side and made the shift to the new belief. The best part of this is that the old belief is not even on your radar screen any more.

 

What is your new belief that you are choosing today? Here are the questions again to ask yourself, “What matters to you now?” “What is important to you now?”

 

What one step are you going to take to move you towards your new positive thought? What one step are you going to take this week? Go ahead, do it now! Leave a comment to tell us what you will be doing.

 

By Jolen Philbrook

 

 

 

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Does Your Dream Scare You?

ID-10083938 (2)Tell me if you can relate to this? You start something new, or maybe you have a great idea and you start working towards your dream. Then that little voice goes off in your head. You know the one I’m talking about. The one that is full of negative talk.

What’s that little voice saying about your dream? Does it say, “You can’t do it, you’re too old, not smart enough, there are too many people already doing it.” “Every time you try something new you fail at it. Just forget it.” Did you know that little voice is keeping you from your dreams? How are you going to stop it?

First be aware of it, then after you have noticed the thought take it and turn that negative thought around by putting your focus on your dreams. Second, start telling yourself you can live your dream. It’s time to start telling yourself, “I’m the greatest. I can do it!” Who was that famous boxer that walked around all the time saying “I’m the greatest! I float like a butterfly and sting like a bee?”

Mohammed Ali. Did you know every time he opened his mouth? He was not stating his fears by saying “I’m afraid that young fighter is going to kick my butt, I’m going to lose this fight.” No Sir! Mohammed Ali said what he was going to do. He stated his affirmations out loud so everyone knew what was going to happen.

In conclusion, you can do the same thing as Mohammed Ali did by stating your affirmations out loud in order to stop your negative thoughts from repeating in your head. The secret is that your mind can only think of one thing at a time. Are you going to listen to the old limiting belief or tell yourself something uplifting? I choose uplifting. What about you? Why not give it a try and let me know how it goes by leaving a comment below.

By Jolen Philbrook